There are many techniques that allow you to manage your emotions. Today we will focus on three of them. In doing so, the goal is not to become free of emotion, but to have more choice about how to manage the emotion once you have experienced it.
Why You Need to Control Emotions
Before figuring out how to control your emotions, it’s important to understand why it’s even necessary. First, control allows you to avoid many problems and stresses. Usually people don’t control their emotions. When a person doesn’t know how to control himself at all, he becomes like a gambler who has an unlimited number of casino bonuses. As a result, an accident inevitably happens. Learning to control your emotions means taking control of yourself as well as other people.
All the people around you feel when there is a person around who can influence them. Meaning, he knows how to lead or play with emotions.
If you don’t learn to control your emotions, there are bound to be some consequences:
- Negative thinking is formed. When a person is emotionally repressed, he is more susceptible to the influence of others. So, in order not to spread negativity, you need to control yourself.
- An inner restlessness emerges. If a person is constantly negative, it leads to his degradation emotionally. To put it simply, the inability to control emotions leads to a decline in mental strength and physical strength.
- Loss of friends and acquaintances. No one likes it when a person is constantly in a bad mood. It is repulsive and friends do not try to communicate with such people. Therefore, to maintain friendships, learn to control yourself.
- Isolation from society. When a person doesn’t know how to control himself, he looks like a beast. He becomes inadequate and no one understands him.
- Loss of control over feelings. It’s important to control oneself so as not to hurt anyone, including oneself. If you don’t watch your feelings, you can lose a lot.
- Harm to a person’s life. Often a strong imbalance in the emotional plane leads to serious losses, for example, it is manifested in self-harm or suicide.
The point of this technique is that in the course of simple but regularly performed actions, the person induces a certain emotional state and anchors (produces an anchoring) it by means of a so-called ritual action.
Thus, it’s necessary to summon the desired state by appealing to one’s memory. You imagine it in all its details, visualize it, and feel it, trying to reach the peak point. At the moment when you reach the peak, you commit the action that you thought up beforehand. You have to think of one that you will never mix up or do spontaneously. After that, distract yourself to enter your normal emotional state. Pause for a while and then repeat the previous two points and distract yourself again. Repeat the procedure regularly so that the anchor is stable.
Muscle Release Technique
This technique helps you get rid of tension and the emotions associated with it.
It’s simple to apply: as soon as you feel that negative emotions begin to take hold of you and that you cannot cope with, quickly and sharply tense all the muscles of the body and stay in that state until you feel that you no longer have the strength to be in tension. After that, the muscles will begin to relax spontaneously, and the tension will start to go away with it.
Techniques for Identifying Barriers
In many cases, certain barriers prevent a person from changing emotions. They may be associated with a habitual way of acting, indulging one’s own weaknesses, etc. This technique helps to identify these barriers, assess them and make conclusions that will allow one to influence his or her emotional state.
As soon as you feel that a negative emotion is starting to take hold, and you can’t get over it, try to shift your attention to identifying its true causes. Answer yourself questions – why this emotion arises in you, what prevents you from changing it, what factors influence it. Subsequently, this will help you not only in identifying barriers to change the emotion, but also in stage practice – get rid of stage clamps, complexes, obstacles that prevent your acting talent from revealing itself.