I like to talk to myself when I’m having a bad day. I know that I’m working through a problem at that moment and that if I can get myself back in the right frame of mind, I’ll be better able to make progress. I’ve also seen self-talk go hand-in-hand with verbal redirection.
I’ll bet many of us use it a lot. We’ll talk to ourselves about our problems, our feelings, or our feelings about our problems. We’ll say things like, “I know I’m a bad person,” or “I know I don’t deserve to have a good day.
I like to talk to myself and use it as a way to help my mind make sense of things. I know that Im a bad person for ignoring an event and not dealing with it any differently. Ill bet many of us use this as a way to explain away our actions or explain away our behavior when we’re not looking at the situation. Ill bet many of us use it to help us see our behavior as the problem, rather than as the response to our feelings.
As a result of the many bad behaviors that we’ve all taken part in along the way, we’ve come to understand something that the entire human race has known for a long time. The human mind is built around our ability to reason. The more reasons we have to justify our actions, the more likely it is that we will find a way to rationalize our behavior.
This is why bad behavior comes in different forms. Some people are very angry. They have a list of reasons why their anger is justified. They know that if they turn their anger on themselves, they will likely get even more angry. For others, their anger is justified because they have been wronged. They feel that they deserve a return of the money that they spent on their ill-advised purchases. Some people are very upset because they feel that they are being treated unfairly.
On the other hand, some people are angry because they have been verbally wronged. For them it is a way to vent their anger. For others it is a way to protect themselves. Some people are just angry at someone. If someone says something to you, you should respond with anger. If someone says something to you in a way that is mean to you, you should respond with anger. For others, it is a way to say something to somebody who has caused you pain.
For instance, the verbal redirection example is “Oh, I’m just being mean.” If someone says that to you, you should say “Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t mean it the way I did.” If someone tells you something that is mean to you, you should say “Oh, I’m sorry, that was mean.
If you are going to be mean in a comment, you are going to have to be honest with yourself about what you are doing. We all know that to be mean, you have to be able to see the person who did you wrong. If you are unable to see it, you are going to be unable to deal with it. While a person can make a comment and say that it is not mean, they still have to admit it.
So, if you are going to be mean in a comment, you should be honest. When you are being mean, you should be able to see the person who did you wrong. Even if you don’t get it right the first time, you should recognize it as a sign that you are going to have to be more honest.
verbal redirection seems to work best in real life, where people can see it. Since we can’t see it, we can’t recognize it and thus not deal with it. You have to be able to see it or you can’t deal with it.
